Socionics. Psychology of a man in relations with a woman. Psychological personality types of men in relationships with women Psychotypes of men and women
Why do some women get acquainted and marry one person, and in the end find themselves face to face with a completely new, hitherto unknown personality, and, seemingly funny and original in the past, the actions of a loved one turn into a real nightmare? ..
Intrapersonal qualities are very important for family life, but, as a rule, choosing a groom for herself, and then a husband, a woman does not pay attention to some oddities of her chosen one ...
It is easier for relatives to hide the peculiarities of the psyche of their loved ones than to spoil the romantic relationship of two lovers by talking about shortcomings, which, at times, are not at all noticeable to others.
The interaction of a man and a woman involves not only sexual intimacy, but also relationships in everyday life. Therefore, it is useful to take a closer look at the behavior of a man in everyday life, no matter how sweet and mysterious it is. To do this, you can classify the totality of signs of some mental disorders, which, in the future, may progress and overshadow family happiness.
Rejecting all conventions, we can distinguish several psychological types of men, and despite the share of irony, it is safe to use this information when choosing a life partner or even at the most random.
Schizoid
The term "schizoid" should not be taken extremely negatively, since any personality contains certain features of the schizoid personality type. The schizoid often sticks out his lips when he is dissatisfied with something. He slouches, adjusting his glasses with a poke on the bridge of his nose. He often drops things, and sitting at the table, unsuccessfully tries to reach objects, not calculating the distance. He burns himself, smoking his cigarette to the ground. He does not differ in accuracy, does not follow nails, clothes and hair. Sometimes his gaze frankly wanders or is directed frowningly, his speech is inconsistent, the tongue twister is replaced by long pauses. He likes to emphasize accents, rhyme words, facial expressions and gestures do not correspond to the content.
Dangling buttons on a shirt and threads on a jacket are not yet a symbol of the “ownerless bachelor”, and if he still doesn’t clean his shoes and forgets to fasten his fly, then this is not at all a sign of depression and multiple sclerosis. By the way, schizoids with mild features can seem very pretty. The definition of such a person is difficult due to the charm that the schizoid often produces on others. The stumbling block is that a man in love capable of unusual things, and so many women like it. An eccentric man seems more striking and original than a cold and pragmatic beech, and funny incidents on a love date are attributed to excitement and shyness.
The “lair” of the schizoid is an untidy room in which complete chaos reigns: from the desk to the sleeping bed. A lot of books. Some have bookmarks, marginal notes, and torn pages. Some things can be found in the most unsuitable places for them. For example, cigarettes in the refrigerator or socks in the bottom drawer of the kitchen table are a reason for sadness rather than smiles ... Cleaning up, rearranging and sorting out his things is a reason to run into a conflict or cause a sudden outburst of anger and irritation.
The schizoid is indifferent to fashion trends in clothing, the latest in modern technology, he is not interested in a career, but he likes classical music, retro style, surreal paintings, psychological literature and topics far from everyday problems. Over time, one can discover some passion of the schizoid for things that are rarely used or have no practical value at all. This is collecting and clothing fetishism, for example - stationery. No one should ever touch an ink pen and a beautiful notebook of a schizoid, drink from his favorite mug, use his decorative knife or lighter for its intended purpose.
Among the schizoids there are real thinkers for whom consciousness is much more important than being itself. A talented schizoid can become a profitable groom and husband, but he must be directed because of his impracticality, which, for example, is typical for a creative person if all ideas “go to the table” and therefore remain unclaimed. A talented schizoid needs a skilled “conductor”, and not an eternally dissatisfied partner who is used to sorting things out with the help of screams and tears. The hysteroid type woman is especially not suitable for the schizoid type. She can easily provoke a deep depression and turn the schizoid temperament of her man into a disease - schizophrenia.
epileptoid
The portrait of an epileptoid is domineering authoritarian personality who gets irritated all the time over trifles. The hair of the epileptoid is carefully styled and does not fall over the eyes. He never parted with a comb, neat in clothes, gives banal gifts, loves traditions, is punctual and stingy with compliments. The epileptoid is categorical in his judgments, loves order and consistency in everything. He is interested in politics, social problems of society, the achievements of science and technology. Superstition and mysticism are alien to him, he does not believe in predictions and other nonsense. A woman's love of fortune-telling can infuriate the most psychologically stable epileptoid. Emotionality and impressionability annoy him, up to accusations of unforgivable stupidity. Random offensive remarks about a partner can eventually turn into constant nit-picking and even threats.
Some women may be struck by the insensitivity of the epileptoid to someone else's grief, while at first the callousness of character is not noticeable under the romantic veil of outward sympathy. The epileptoid has one or more phobias. He is squeamish, cannot stand dirt, dampness and cold, loves comfort and well-cooked meals. The cookbook in the most prominent place in the kitchen and the perfect order in the apartment are the most important criteria by which he evaluates his future chosen one. However, in the opinion of a typical family epileptoid, his wife does not know how to cook, she is slovenly and dirty, and the children are naughty and importunate.
Epileptoids are compatible with women of the same type, or with those who do not like to take the initiative and find parental teachings of their husband acceptable. An epileptoid, as a rule, is the first to break off relations with a hysterical woman, although she is hard pressed by failures in her personal life. He is vengeful and vindictive. A demanding epileptoid is able to get along with a woman of an hysteroid type, provided that she has a higher intellect and a certain position in society, achieves success in work and is respected by others.
The epileptoid is quite suitable for family life, he not only always tries to improve his financial situation, loves to save money, but also willingly spends his savings on vacation. But the upbringing of children will be in full severity, sometimes reaching the point of absurdity, which will negatively affect the psyche of the child and is fraught with various conflicts, especially in adolescence. The older the epileptoid becomes, the more grouchy and greedy he is, he likes to make "stash" and count the money spent by his wife. A woman who loves to spend money on new outfits, for whom the words “economy” and “economy” are in no way interconnected in meaning and are mysterious complex terms from textbooks, it is better to refrain from intimate relationships with an epileptoid. In addition, the epileptoid never admits his mistakes and is always sure that he is right, even if he has a collar in someone else's lipstick or he spent the night in a sobering-up station. A woman who does not think of sex without diversity, and relationships without heartfelt confidential conversations, an epileptoid is useful only in the household: for example, to hammer a nail.
Tyrant (paranoid)
Unfortunately, not every woman is able to recognize a tyrant and despot in her lover, as he carefully disguises his shortcomings and weaknesses. The appearance of the tyrant is of no importance; a brutal macho and an inconspicuous, quiet bespectacled man can turn out to be a domestic tyrant. Often, signs of tyranny can appear only after one or two years of marriage. If a woman complains that her husband “seems to have been changed”, then it is possible that this man is a tyrant ...
The tendency to alcoholism and betrayal is much easier to identify than the darkest nooks and crannies of the soul of a potential sadist. Rudeness and cruelty has the most diverse grounds, from the internal structure of the family in which the man grew up, psychological trauma, humiliation and many other reasons. Family life turns into hell, scandals and reproaches become commonplace. Handshaking is out of the question.
Any tyrant is able to charm a woman with his cheerful character, win over with the nobility of deeds and skillful courtship. The intimate side of the relationship is also important, because the tyrant is an ardent and passionate lover; everything he does - he does it with pleasure, prefers to give a woman sexual pleasure, admire her, fulfill any of her whims. The only alarming thing is that the hidden tyrant periodically finds himself in such situations and commits such acts, for which he then endlessly apologizes, as if it gives him pleasure.
Quarrels and reconciliations excite him, and the refusal of his beloved from intimate contacts as a punishment for "indecent behavior" only inflames the tyrant. As soon as access to the body is gained, he becomes angry and irritable again, then history repeats itself. The tyrant takes the initiative of reconciliation, but without discussing the causes and essence of the conflict. If this is not possible, then he goes to some kind of trick, for example, gives expensive gifts or arranges a romantic evening.
Excessive suspicion, megalomania, persecution and other signs of paranoia are varieties of psychosis that even the most experienced woman in relationships will not help get rid of.
In modern society, when the traditions of house-building and the patriarchal way of the family are slowly but surely fading into the past, a woman should be more attentive to the opinion of a young man about the distribution of family rights and responsibilities, even if it is a joke. The fantasies of a tyrant are simple and uncomplicated: the wife has direct duties, and the husband has rights, a woman can count on love flirting and understanding only before marriage, and after that she must focus on housekeeping and raising children.
Outbursts of jealousy accompanied by rage and uncontrolled aggression are a typical sign of a notorious tyrant. A man who spreads his arms will never stop, unless he is broken by rheumatism or complete paralysis of the limbs. A woman, a victim of such terror, can stock up on a combat suit if she does not want to spend the rest of her life in bruises. If the dubious, in terms of happy family prospects, union is not broken in time, then this can become a habit. Often, the infliction of pain contributes to the sexual satisfaction of the tyrant, but there are exceptions when such a sadomasochistic relationship suits both partners.
What is the most interested in a certain woman who likes a certain man? The answer is obvious and suggests itself: she is interested in drawing his attention to her own person, countering his interest in herself, in building a strong love relationship with a specific representative of the strong half of humanity.
In order for the goal to be achieved successfully, you need to have certain knowledge that helps to understand such an exceptionally subtle thing as the psychology of men in relationships with women.
Our guys seem to us a closed book, a secret with seven seals, which, nevertheless, charming young ladies are full of desire to open and read - because their family happiness depends on it.
We are all different personalities, we have different temperaments, characters, habits. This is due to nature itself, which endowed us with these differences at birth, as well as the way we received upbringing, education, profession, and other external factors.
Naturally, such subtleties can only be learned over time, already more closely communicating with the subject of one's secret and explicit dreams. In order to understand how you can already now make your company pleasant and desirable for him, you should find out what psychological type your knight can be attributed to.
Psychological types of men
Audials, visuals, kinesthetics - this is a simplified gradation of men, based on how they are used to receiving information and sharing it with the outside world. Since in its pure form it is not possible to meet a bright representative of any of the named psychological types, the division is mostly conditional, having rather blurred boundaries.
We are all an explosive mixture of certain qualities, but if you take a closer look, you can see what dominates in us, plays the most striking role in our behavior - and from here we can already build a strategy to win the heart of our chosen one.
Auditory man
If your man is auditory, then at honor that you got a great rarity. Among men, this psychological type is the least common, for some reason nature ordered it that way. You will immediately determine that this particular representative of the stronger sex is in front of you, according to the following signs:
he uses in his speech such phrases as "I'm listening to ...", "Listen to me ...", "How noisy ...", "How quiet ...", "I don't want to hear this";
he loves to listen to music, he has all the collections of his favorite artists, and only in the best quality;
most likely, this man will have a good ear for music, and if his life is not connected with a creative profession, then he fully finds use for his musical talents in a hobby (for example, sings in karaoke);
He remembers information best by ear. After watching the film, he can easily quote you the phrases you like exactly, miraculously conveying even the subtleties of the intonation he heard.
For such men, the world is filled with sounds: quiet and loud, melodic and harsh, pleasant and disgusting. A melody heard by chance can awaken in his subconscious a whole range of feelings, associations and emotions, and the phrase that a word can also hurt, acquires the clearest and most concrete meaning when communicating with such men.
You will charm him if:
you have a naturally beautiful melodic voice and good diction. The most remarkable thing is that if you did not get wonderful vocal abilities by nature, then it is in your hands to improve what you have through various exercises;
be generous with compliments. Here there is an opportunity to catch two birds with one stone at the same time: there are few people who can be indifferent to approving words addressed to them, and if they are uttered by a charming female voice, then the male soul will surrender without a fight;
you will begin to understand music, performers and will be able to distinguish the sound quality in his car compared to others;
dedicate a song or poem to him - even if he is not a romantic at all in his soul, having heard beautifully designed words of sympathy and love, he will definitely not be able to remain indifferent.
What to do is prohibited:
yelling and boycott are equally useless and can even hurt you. The psychology of any man in a relationship generally does not accept such rather categorical measures, but it is especially important to remember this when you are dealing with a representative of the strong half of humanity who perceives information by ear;
avoid foul language, in fact, it generally has little to do with femininity, and in a situation with an auditory man, the importance of each spoken word increases exponentially.
visual man
This is a very common type among the stronger sex. To determine that you are dealing with exactly this, it is possible by the following signs:
in his speech you can often hear such words as “Look at me”, “Until I see it with my own eyes, I won’t believe it”, “I see perfectly”, “Wait and see”, “It was ugly”;
it is important for him how you look, how he looks, appearance plays a very important role for such men
he just has an amazing visual memory: he will be able to remember a face or place he once saw, even after a long time
he likes to watch movies more than listen to music, and also likes to surround himself with beautiful things that he enjoys admiring
You will turn his head if:
you are attractive or know how to present your external advantages correctly and hide some shortcomings. A well-groomed girl who takes care of her appearance has every chance of attracting the attention of men of this type;
write letters to him, and do it with imagination: choose an unusual design for your message and write it with your own hand, and do not print it on a computer;
try to always look great - these men “love with their eyes” in the literal sense, and how much effort you put into your own appearance, so much of his attention to you will return a hundredfold;
you will deprive him of speechlessness by dancing a private dance for him once, believe me, he will be at your feet immediately;
even when cooking, you will delight his eyes - beautifully set the table, use beautiful kitchen utensils.
Here's what you shouldn't do:
forget that there are hairdressers, manicure and pedicure masters, cosmetologists, fashion stores, fitness clubs and other places in the world that help women look charming. With this man, you should not be afraid to pay increased attention to your appearance, he just approves of everything that you do to look your best - after all, you are trying for him, for your beloved.
to criticize their appearance, to report (even with the best of intentions) that someone looks better, stylish, young, and so on. It is probably not necessary to explain why this should not be done.
Kinesthetic man
Your man is kinesthetic if:
he learns the world through touch, sensations of comfort or his absence near him;
you understood this because he wants to touch you himself and he is clearly pleased if you touch him;
in his speech you hear such phrases as “It touched me”, “It does not concern me”, “I feel”, “He is cold”, “I hug you”;
he likes to lie in the bath, eat delicious food, he likes to play sports and other physical activities.
This psychological type is most common among men, so we advise you to take a closer look at your chosen one - most likely, you will see many signs that indicate that he belongs specifically to kinesthetics. Develop an appropriate strategy to conquer this representative of the stronger sex - psychologists say that these men are the most suitable for the role of head of the family.
How to charm him:
touches, kisses, caresses, hugs, and most importantly - amazing sex: these are the tools that will help you win the heart of a kinesthetic man;
The way to a man's heart is through his stomach" - clearly refers to men of this psychological type. Cook delicious food for him - he, like no one else, will be able to appreciate your culinary talents;
use spirits. Let your fragrance firmly etch into his memory, evoking associations with warmth, tenderness, comfort, for him these are the most powerful emotions.
touch him more often, do a massage, this man admires such an expression of feelings.
You don't need to do this:
use as an argument in conflict situations weaning from the marital bed, as well as from such natural manifestations of caring for your man as cooking delicious food and clean clothes. Sooner or later, such manipulations will force the kinesthetic male to seek warmth, comfort and understanding elsewhere. His male point of view will be as follows: they are depriving me of the most valuable thing, which means that I am not at court here.
these men are most pleased with the manifestations in a woman of her primordial features, such as softness, femininity, housekeeping. Therefore, they will not be able to do justice to your career achievements, especially if it comes at the expense of the family. You will either have to make every effort so that your man does not feel deprived of your attention, or sacrifice your own career heights in some way.
Summing up
As we mentioned earlier, it is very difficult to meet a bright representative of one or another psychological type in its pure form. The more time you spend with your man, the more opportunities you have to get to know him. The male soul seems so mysterious only in the first moments, and then you understand that if you have a desire to know and charm it, it is not so difficult.
For every man it is possible to pick up a magic key that can open the doors of his heart.
Remember, our dear readers, that love rules the world. The psychology of men in relationships is subject to the same laws as women's. We all dream of finding love, we want it to be mutual and happy.
We hope that reading this article will help you better look into the soul of your man, understand the psychology of a man in relations not only with the outside world, but also specifically in your relationship, and will also help you improve them.
After all, women, unlike men, are still more subtle psychologists, it is easier for us to hear the partner’s side and catch the same wave with him. So let's use nature itself for our own good, to always see, hear and feel the love coming from a man in love with you.
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What are male despots like?
Family tyrant, tyrant at work, tyrant at home: they are different and at the same time very similar to each other
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Dear readers and guests of my blog!
This publication is another continuation of the article "".
Today we will analyze the question of how tyrants differ from each other, and what are the psychological types of domestic despots.
My experience in quality shows that at least 6 such types can be distinguished.
One thing unites them:
If their tyrannical essence is sufficiently expressed, then the woman next to him constantly feels inferior, depressed, deprived of strength and self-confidence, with low self-esteem
But! And this is another sign that unites all tyrants.
As a rule, at the beginning of a relationship with such a person, a woman feels loved, protected and protected.
In general, as behind a stone wall. begins to manifest itself slowly, gradually.
And then one day, she suddenly realizes that next to her is one of these six ...
So, …
But no, wait a minute! Another sign that unites such men is that ...
their vital, which in turn create
1. Critic controller
Essence:“Everything must be under control! I do not care about you! You must obey me!"
I believe that this is one of the most difficult and dangerous psychological types of male tyrants.
The first thing such a person requires is subordination and order. He is also a tyrant at work.
The life of the people around him, especially his wife and children, is strictly regulated.
If someone violates this order, then he immediately runs into a scandal with insults and accusations.
And in the worst cases, with the use of physical violence.
Terribly jealous. Constantly and meticulously watching his wife.
Controls calls, meetings, correspondence, comings and goings at home.
Where was, with whom, why and why.
If such a despot imagines that something is wrong, then he turns into an investigator.
And with his interrogations, he brings the woman to a nervous breakdown.
It happens that he threatens his partner with physical violence and murder.
Likes to humiliate and insult. Often emotional abuse alternates with physical.
Almost completely isolates a woman from the social environment. By all means strive to quarrel her with relatives, friends and acquaintances.
So that she becomes completely under his control, intimidated.
The family tyrant seeks to deprive a woman of self-confidence and independence.
All this makes such a person the most dangerous of all types of tyrants.
2. Sultan Ruler
Essence: "I'm the boss here! Please me and take care of me!”
Unlike the Controller, this male despot can even give a little bit of freedom and almost no control.
It seems to him that everyone and always owes him and owes him.
Especially the closest ones. And he is nothing to anyone.
Always considers himself the master of the situation. If something goes wrong, he becomes furious and starts a brainwashing scandal.
His woman always feels inferior, as he is very rarely satisfied with her. She is next to him.
Even if she did everything for him at the highest level, he will find something to complain about.
Sometimes, as another manipulation, he does something pleasant to a woman. For example, helping around the house or giving an expensive gift.
But this is not a gesture of love and good will.
Then he will remember this all his life and demand gratitude in return.
And then accuse him of a bad attitude towards him.
Outside the family and home, he pretends to be very kind, generous and sympathetic. But that's just to impress.
He is selfish and egocentric. If at least once you don’t cook breakfast for him or give him a clean shirt in the wrong way, then he will immediately fall upon you with accusations, such as:
"You only think about yourself! I don't care about you! I’m trying here, I’m climbing out of my skin, and you don’t give a damn about it! ”
You can hardly ask for help from him, but you must always help him.
However, he can help, but then he will demand a hundred times more in return.
Next type:
3. Hidden sadist
Essence:“I am perfect! Therefore, I will hurt you and humiliate you!”
Blows your mind with smart words. They can be really smart. But they are thoroughly saturated with accusations against you. He can spend hours saying that you are to blame for everything.
He can argue with you for hours, bringing you to clean water and exhausting your nerves.
Appears calm and balanced. Almost never raises his voice. His weapons are a cruel joke, sarcasm and.
And most importantly, it is arrogant and silent contempt.
From him, most women instantly lose self-esteem and the last grains of faith in themselves disappear.
A sadist at 100 uses his ability to speak and with the help of words to powder his brains.
He twists the meaning of what a woman says, reduces everything to absurdity and uses it against her.
Often it is he who provokes.
For example, he deliberately starts a meaningless argument.
He exposes the woman as stupid, and he himself emerges from the dispute as a triumphant winner.
At the same time, in conflicts, the Sadist almost never screams or raises his voice.
But it brings a woman to such a state that she cannot restrain her emotions at all.
And the Sadist skillfully provokes her. She breaks down. And then he falls into a terrible trap.
For everyone - acquaintances, relatives and even children, it turns out to be scandalous, cruel and prone to conflicts.
In a word, it is for them.
"And what do you want? It's impossible to talk to you! Every time you break into a scream and freak out!
And he seems to everyone calm and reasonable, forced to endure her tricks and tantrums.
“Here, look what you have! Never raise your voice! How does he even tolerate you!
As a result, she always looks to blame for their family problems.
Children, friends, relatives blame her for all family troubles.
And the fact that behind all this is the terrible character of the Sadist, no one notices.
4. Narcissus-Casanova
Essence:“Before sex, you are my goddess! And after… and after, I like to smoke…!”
This man is a despot deeply in love with himself. Uses women for personal self-affirmation. They are only sexual objects for him.
At the same time, he is very popular with them. However, he is only interested in the bed.
And, as a rule, having enjoyed a woman, he immediately begins to look for a new one. At the same time, he manages to fall in love with everyone who has been in his arms.
He knows how to influence women and subjugate them to himself.
He knows how to speak his ears and hang noodles on them. It's in his nature.
The woman he begins to court instantly blossoms and.
After all, he knows how to inspire faith in himself and.
She thinks she is the best in the world.
But after the candy-bouquet period, and often right after the first night, all his love, all his sincere courtship, all his admiration for you, become like a cheap decoration.
Or disappear immediately with his person.
What is his tyranny, you ask?
Everything is very simple. All the suffering of a woman is postponed to the final act of their relationship and for an endless period after it.
But first things first.
As I said, this type of male tyrant knows how to masterfully fall in love with a woman.
And then, staying with her and assuring her that she is his only one, he starts several intrigues on the side.
A woman intuitively feels that something is wrong, but being in love, she continues to believe Casanova.
He promises her a wedding, children, a long one. And maybe even moves in with her... but...
Everything remains as a promise.
And this situation can last for a very long time. Sometimes several months or even years.
And here is the final act.
Once he calmly or even with notes of contempt and superiority announces, buttoning his shirt: “Sorry, I'm leaving. I have another...
And the woman finds herself at the bottom of a terrible depression.
And, thank God, if she has enough determination.
If not, then a protracted depressive peak in an embrace with apathy, anxiety, fear, anger, resentment and loneliness is guaranteed to her.
It seems that Casanova himself experiences the greatest pleasure precisely from the final act and from its consequences.
He is flattered that a woman is suffering for him, looking for him, trying to get him back. He, like a real sadist, can even give her false hope. For example, like this:
“Perhaps I will return. But you have to change!"
And the woman, inspired by hope, begins to transform: she changes her wardrobe, goes on a diet, visits the gym almost daily with an expensive trainer, goes through a bunch of psychological trainings, and is engaged in personal growth. AND…
And it really does change!
But the last chord in this drama is his following phrase:
"You're incorrigible mediocrity! We'll never be together!"
5. Victim of circumstance
Essence:"I'm tired of problems! I'm tired of everything ... Help me! Save me!"
This . He always has a lot of problems and something always does not work out. In this case, everyone is to blame, except him.
But fate is clearly unfair to him. Those around him always underestimated him and did not notice his talents and virtues.
Therefore, he is always on the sidelines.
Therefore, he is forced to endure suffering, injustice and patiently wait in the wings.
What does such a man expect from his woman?
Of course, compassion and help. But most of all, that she sacrifice herself for his life and success.
So that she would always be next to him, listen to his complaints, forget about herself, about her interests.
She earned money, equipped housing, raised and raised children, while he was looking for justice and himself.
In general, in order to
And what in return?
Yes, in general, nothing ...
Only sometimes, in a good mood, a couple of sluggish compliments, and a bouquet for March 8, somewhere in September.
The male victim, despite the fact that he can be very sensitive and vulnerable, is often prone to rigidity.
So, if a woman lacks something to him, for example, attention and compassion, then he showers her with criticism, humiliates her.
Makes her the root cause of all his suffering and problems.
His favorite phrases: “You don’t understand me! You are not able to hear me and compromise! You don't care about me and my problems!
Obviously, these are the words of an egocentric who believes that the Universe should revolve only around him.
In some cases, they may even use physical violence.
In addition, like the hidden Sadist, the Victim Man often turns his children and relatives against his wife.
He does this in order to present himself in a favorable light.
In my practice, there was a case that passionately and convincingly explained to me that he could not find a job for 5 years, just because she washed him down. No support from her.
That he is tired of such a life, and therefore spends all his time on the couch watching TV.
If a woman begins to resist such a man, then, naturally, he turns the situation in his favor.
He accuses her of laziness, stupidity, inaction, cruelty, dominance and control.
And he himself is five - a victim of circumstances.
6. Evil aggressor
Essence:“Strength above all! Pain is the truth of life!”
As the name indicates, the aggression of such a man is the main feature of his character. Such men are more likely than other types to use physical violence against women.
The aggressor is convinced from an early age that physical strength is the most important thing in life.
And therefore, he solves many problems through an indirect or explicit threat of its use.
The worst thing is that he can't control her. Just like he can't.
As a rule, such men were brought up in families with tyrant fathers, who often beat them and brought up in them a cult of strength and aggression.
Aggressors tend to use drugs and alcohol.
Often their aggression is not directed directly at the woman, but at the surrounding objects.
So, if something in your house is often broken and destroyed by your man in a fit of rage and anger, then it is better to beware. After all, as a rule, in the end, they are sent to a woman and her children.
Everything is aggravated by the fact that most of the aggressors are egocentric and narcissists. They view woman as an inferior being.
And they are often guided by proverbs: “A chicken is not a bird, a woman is not a person”, “Beat a woman with a hammer, a woman will be gold.”
Often they are deprived of sympathy, tenderness, do not tolerate weakness, tears and female sentimentality.
Very often they consider a woman as property, so parting with them is very problematic.
Worst of all, if an aggressive man is a despot by nature, a pronounced psychopath or has other hidden or obvious mental abnormalities.
But we will talk about this in one of the following articles.
As you understand, dear readers, all 6 types of tyrants are extremes that are quite rare in life.
In reality, a family tyrant, a tyrant at work and a tyrant at home are mixed, collective images that incorporate character traits from all 6 types.
In life, women most often encounter this mixed type.
I will describe it in one of the following articles.
But I told about 4 types of family tyrants
The psychology of men and women is different, and this is an indisputable fact. We are two different worlds. And every day, each of us notes the correctness of the aphorism that women are from Venus, while men are from Mars. Not a day goes by that these different creatures do not interact, do not communicate with each other. In order for us, women, to better understand the opposite sex, to know what can be expected from the "strong half" of humanity, and what is not worth it, it is necessary to understand the psychological types of men. There are many options, there are even more classifications, but in general, five main psychotypes of men can be distinguished.
Superman or heroic type. I would like to note that in life in its pure form such men can hardly be found. It's easier to find an imitator of it. Superman is more likely created in the minds of girls, women, inspired by the images of heroes saving the world and winking from the screens of cinemas, or looking through the lines of their favorite novel. Superman man has the features of a strong, strong-willed person. This is, first of all, courage, determination, fearlessness, the ability to perform Actions without hesitation. In people of courageous professions: the military, geologists, rescuers, miners, athletes, prospectors, etc. - one can discern features of the heroic type. A man of this type pays attention to his physical form, often visits the gym, “shakes” his muscles.
And what about a woman for "Superman"? If we started the analogy with movie characters, we can recall the famous James Bond, in his environment there were only beautiful women, but they fleetingly swept through his life. Hence the conclusion that a woman plays an insignificant role in the life of a man of a heroic type. He is attracted by sexuality, the beauty of a woman.
Don Juan . Love for a woman always lives in his soul, but this love does not differ in constancy, his look, his thoughts always turn to a new woman. The meaning of his life is love. For him, this is a game, another circle - attracting attention to himself, winning love, disappointment in a woman, loss of interest, a short pause, and the search for a new hobby, a female "ideal". The main feature for men of this type is volatility, inconstancy, idealism, he draws inspiration from numerous connections.
Among people of creative professions (actors, poets, writers, artists, etc.) one can often find men of this type. And a woman for him, first of all, is a source of inspiration, she is a muse that directs him to create amazing works, new images, new achievements.
The Don Juan man has in his arsenal many ways, tricks to please women of any type. He quickly and easily arouses sympathy for himself in a woman, she is fascinated by him in a matter of minutes, and this man firmly sinks into her heart and thoughts. Vivid emotions, unforgettable passion, the whole range of feelings - this is what the Don Juan man gives, and sincerely. He also loves, he experiences the same feelings ... but until a new "ideal" appears on the horizon that can attract his attention. This is a "holiday man". He will make you feel irresistible, the best, a star, a goddess! .. And even if he ever marries, marriage will not make him calm down, he will always find a new object for admiration, love and passion.
And if a woman makes even a hint that he needs to settle down, that there are certain obligations between partners, then you can be sure that after a while this man will simply disappear from the life of this woman.
In order not only to please such an experienced man, but also to keep him, you will have to make a lot of effort. Surprise him all the time. There must be something extraordinary, special in you that will make the Don Juan forget about all the other women. Convince him with your actions that you are exactly the one he dreamed of for him.
Collector. To some extent similar to the previous type. But this similarity is only external. A man-collector seduces, enchants women, but only in order to assert himself, to prove once again to himself that he is a "real man", as he himself thinks, and not a loser. And precisely in order to add a "positive" result to the treasury of sexual victories, women who are used as an object of seduction have a certain accessibility. And the male collector himself is sexually promiscuous. For him, the main thing is quantity, not quality. A man of this psychotype focuses on the visible side - he takes care of himself, wears elegant clothes, in his arsenal there are many tricks for quickly seducing a woman.
It is believed that this type of behavior is the result of a certain complex. Once doubts about male viability, whether it is a consequence of an insult to man's dignity or rejected love, leads to the development of this type of behavior. This is revenge on all women and an opportunity for self-assertion.
Shy. This type includes insecure, shy men who are ideally suited to those women who take on the role of a mother in relation to him. For these men, a synonym for the word "love" is guardianship, pity. They are followers in life, and this is not only in relations with a woman, but also in terms of a career. They are never managers, they are always performers, as a rule, they are responsible for their duties, disciplined, but they cannot fully reveal their potential.
To create a harmonious relationship, a shy man needs to increase self-esteem with words and actions, telling him that he is desirable, that his company is interesting. These men are in constant doubt, they consider themselves uninteresting, not smart enough, often not suitable for the woman who chose him as a partner. Perhaps for an energetic and determined woman, such a man will be just a godsend. Often a shy man becomes "henpecked".
If you do not like to take the initiative in your own hands, this man is definitely not for you. But if he reveals himself to you (in the case of the right approach to him), then you will see that under shyness there is someone who will do a lot for the sake of his love.
Family man. Already in the name of this type lies the fact that this man is ideal for family relationships. His main priorities are home, family, children. He will do everything to ensure stability in his family, protect his "cell of society" from external factors. He has a permanent job, which he performs with inherent diligence, and which brings a certain income. He constantly does housework: in a family man's house there are no idle plumbing or broken locks, he is more likely to prevent all internal cataclysms. Often has a hobby, which can be fishing, and the opportunity to dig in the garden.
A family man is almost always focused on the sexual needs of his soul mate, and tries to adapt to them in different age periods. This man tries to be the way he prefers to see him, his chosen one.
In conclusion, it must be said that not a single psychological type of men, as a rule, is found in its pure form. In every person there are many psychological types and subtypes. Therefore, different traits of character can manifest themselves in one person.
There is no need to divide men into "good" and "bad". All have their advantages and disadvantages, pluses and minuses. Knowing the psychological type of a man will help you build your relationship in the most appropriate and correct way.
